Make Yourself Miserable and How to cope
Two nice posts about these subjects, only the connection is mine:
9 Great Ways to make Yourself Miserable
How to Cope when Something goes Terribly Wrong
Well written and humorous, so if your in a dump go read them.
January 16, 2008 @ 10:01 pm
First, I want to say I love your blog. I do, however, sometimes disagree. This is one of those times.
It strikes me that much of what Wayne Dyer is writing about are “symptoms” of depression, and as such telling someone with MDD to simply change these things is neglecting to see depression as an illness.
Rather is appears that the depressed person is at fault for continuing to remain depressed. The “amotivation” and “choice” described in the first quote are two examples that come to mind ” Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice”, He says.
Then he extoles the virtues of buying and reading books by Tony Robbins, Brian Tracy and Echart Tolle. From my perspective the former and latter (I’m not familiar with Tracy) are purveyors of “magical thinking”. Be positive and good things will happen. These types of books are disheartening to those of us who have struggled so hard to get well.
Also, “relying on external validation”, or “trying to please everyone else” are symptoms of my depression. I am not like that when I am well. If I’m not mistaken one of the sumptoms of atypical depression is rejection sensitivity, which appears to me to be a at the core of this “people pleaser: dynamic.
Just my opinions…aqua
January 16, 2008 @ 11:24 pm
Dear Aqua,
To my opinion this post has no intention of ridiculing depression. But I am not to familiar with the background of this blog or the writer.
The reason it appealed to me is because people not being depressed can have these feelings as well. Maybe not as severe or as many symptoms but they can. Maybe they can appreciate some of the suggestions.
Regards Dr Shock
January 17, 2008 @ 9:58 pm
I just want to apologize for my “cranky” post. I have very few people in my life who understand I have an illness and that my MDD is not something I do to myself, or something I can just fix by being more positive. I sometimes feel extremely defensive when I read similar sounding advice. I recognize you aren’t one of those people. Sorry.
January 17, 2008 @ 10:23 pm
Your comments are always very welcome.